Good Morning Mental Pilates class! Last nights webinar was wonderful! Thank you for your participation. I loved hearing the feedback about Core Identity! It is fun to reveal what remains when you take away all of the rules, beliefs and behaviors from the picture!
Let me know if anybody has completed the via survey and wants to share their strengths!
As for this weeks skill, Selecting Awareness describe a point in time when you felt completely at ease. Use all of your senses. Also, share your At Ease procedure! What works for you?
And take just a few moments at the end of each day to begin the awareness journaling process. I promise this little exercise will expose a lot of opportunities to gain control of your life experience. Remember, to be in hell is to drift and to be in heaven is to steer!
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can you please give me the link to the survey?? Am anxious to do and share!
ReplyDeleteHere is the link and it should be in the Exercise Workbook as well. Have a blast!!
ReplyDeletehttp://www.viacharacter.org/VIASurvey/tabid/55/Default.aspx
AJ
I have been reflecting on the metaphor of the evening! Martha's declaration of wanting to be the mother and not the cop! Priceless!
ReplyDeleteThe more I thought about it, the more sense it makes. Just as in the examples of the gardener, musician and chef only want to grow, play or cook what is the best; a mother only wants the best outcomes for their children. And just as these other roles are encumbered by weeds, off notes and cakes that don't rise, mothers have to be the "cop" and weed the nonconstructive behaviors from your children's lives.
How perfectly it fits and reflects the challenges of parenting! A parent's awareness needs to be dominantly attuned to the "mothering" role and occasionally but efficiently in (and out) of the "cop" role!
Consider it forever added to the Mental Pilates metaphor pool!
Andy
Thought I'd share the results of my VIA character strengths to compare and contrast with the group. Interestingly, I had completed the survey about two months ago during an earlier MP webinar and today I repeated the identical top five results! (OK, the order of the middle two was reversed.) I find it interesting how my character strengths relate to elements of my core identity. Are you finding relationships between your VIA strengths and your core identity? Here are my top five:
ReplyDeleteCapacity to love and be loved
Kindness and generosity
Gratitude
Industry, diligence and perseverance
Honesty, authenticity and genuineness
What an interesting idea. It has been over 4 years since I first took this survey and my results are consistent, but slightly different. My original results were:
ReplyDelete1) Humor and playfulness
2) Capacity to love and be loved
3) Creativity, Ingenuity and originality
4) Social Intelligence, and
5) Curiosity and interest in the world
My results from today's survey are as follows:
1) Creativity, ingenuity and originality
2) Perspective (wisdom)
3) Humor and playfulness
4) Leadership
5) Capacity to love and be loved
I believe that my efforts in developing the Mental Pilates practice have allowed my strengths of wisdom and leadership to emerge.
I'm sure social intelligence and curiosity didn't slip too far down the list!
Thanks for the great idea, Dorothy! (P.S. I love your character strengths!)
Andy
It is fun to see what everyone got! So far this quiz thing seems very accurate....eerily accurate since its just a computer.
ReplyDeleteHere's Mine:
1)Curiosity and Interest in the world
2) Kindness and generosity
3) Love of learning
4)Industry, diligence, and perseverance
5) Perspective/wisdom
Sarah
As you know Sarah, the computer has nothing to do with it. It is Dr. Christopher Peterson who spent years developing this survey. Positive Psychology! Want a concept!!
ReplyDeleteOk, class, here goes!! Very interesting! My top 5 character strengths are:
ReplyDelete1) Capacity to love and be loved
2) Kindness and generosity
3) Gratitude
4) Zest, enthusiasm and energy
5) Citizenship, teamwork and loyalty
Very similar to one classmates! At least the first 3! : )
This is pretty cool. I must say I have to agree w/Doc Peterson's assessment of yours truly! Wow! Thanks for the fun survey, Andy! It confirms who I am, my "core" and what makes me feel good about myself...etc.
My curiosity during class last night was....and not to open up any cans of worms...but how much of us, our core, etc. is genetic/hereditary?? Just curious on the take there. It doesn't matter, as we are concentrating on ourselves not where we came from, etc. But they do say...the apple doesn't fall far from the tree? I know I have inherited traits from my Dad which I value and cherish. Anyway...what a tangent I'm on...sorry. Hope I'm not blowing the lesson plan! : )
I'm feeling that MP for me is a sort of "cleanse"...and a much needed one. (anyone ever used a detox cleanse, too....am thinking that might be a good idea for yours truly, too!) ok....now TOO MUCH INFO ON THIS BLOG! : )
Back to the character strengths.....it was positive reinforcement for me! And ties in w/my core identity.
Have a good evening! And my journelling starts tonight, too.
(how many gold stars do I get tonight?!)
xo
Hey Martha,
ReplyDeleteI am doing a detox cleanse in a few weeks called the ultimate energy cleanse...I will let you know how it goes.
Until then, MP is a good way to detox from negative thought patterns and beliefs. I have started to catch myself thinking outside of my core and I guess just knowing that is a step in the right direction.
Have I found another soul mate??!! :)
ReplyDeleteMany gold stars for Martha. As for the issue of heredity there is a lot that is being discovered about the role of genes.
ReplyDeleteThe once highly debated topic of nature vs. nurture (i.e. genes vs. environment) is closing in on a consensus position that it is nature via. nurture.
The best way I can describe this relationship is to use a computer analogy. Your genes represent a bunch of "programs" that exist on your "hard drive" (think of your hard drive as your DNA). Each program is one that you share in common with your Mom or Dad. But like computer programs they need to be "activated" by clicking on an icon or opening a file. Your genes give you a lot of potential to develop behaviors like your Mom or Dad.
But how you direct your awareness will determine which "programs" you activate and which programs get repeated frequently. The genes that get "activated" have much to do with nurture which is another word for the environment that surrounds you. Learning how to consciously select "frames" form your environment allows you to affect which genes get "activated"!
I hope this helps!
Andy
ok, I get the hereditary/genetic thing...makes sense. Now about MP taking strokes off of your golf game! Intriguing! I can see if, as the key to golf is relaxing and zoning out the distracting stuff on our plates! I'm putting both of my cores to the test tomorrow. Will report back!
ReplyDeleteI swear it was amazing how relevant Mental Pilates is on the golf course! If you are just able to delay the frustration long enough to let the calm, rhythmic strokes of straight shots to emerge, it's a whole new game!
ReplyDeleteFor a guy, overcoming the desire to hit it further than anybody is a serious accomplishment!!
I decided the objective of golf is to relax and have fun. And by doing so, I seem to take fewer strokes. Go figure!